Just Be Ready
Monday Missives #33 (On the Road Edition)
Wow. I cannot believe today is Day 10 of the Discoball Tour. It feels like I am just kicking this off and that I left Virginia a lifetime ago all at once. I mean, just last Saturday, August 30, I had that whole “nope, not settling and forcing myself to stay in a bad, unsafe situation” experience in Bristol, VA/TN. Now I am in a hotel room off of I-40 in Amarillo, TX and about to leave for Santa Fe, NM. Phew.
(This is the post from last week about that first night on the road).
Freedom of Movement
I'm on my second walk of the day. My arms swing back and forth, back and forth. My feet plant firmly one in front of the other. It’s hot. Even in the shade. I am sweaty. My forehead glistens. And I do not care.
Since I left Virginia, I have driven over 2,000 miles. I have crossed four states—Virginia,Tennessee, Arkansas and Texas. I have stayed with people. I have stayed in hotels. I have stayed in people's homes when they weren't even there. I met with and recorded with six different women: two in Nashville, one in Memphis, two in Dallas and one in Justin, TX. One of them I know from my somatic practitioner training program. Two of them I got connected to by one of my besties. One of them I just met for the first time by way of an introduction made by a woman whom I just met three weeks ago when I was in Alabama. And one of them I connected with on Instagram because I was drawn to how real she is.
Here are my key takeaways from those conversations:
Be a champion—for yourself, for others, and allow others to be a champion for you.
Forgive yourself. Past versions of who you are today may not have known what to do or how to do it, so forgive yourself.
If you’re not having fun, don't do it.
You know your own body better than anyone else so trust what you know and seek out the people who can help you.
The good thing is coming your way so be ready and when it comes, let it in.
You can go from feeling like a Zero (on a 1 through 10 scale) to living like a 12 plus.
(I expect these episode to start coming out in November/December…so, if you want to be in the loop of that, become a free or paid subscriber).
I cannot even fully express what I learning as I drive along, commune with others in their homes, and make new friends with perfect strangers. Here are some high level thoughts that I know will flesh out:
I can have my “why” (recording women’s stories to amplify women’s voices and celebrate women’s choices) and have a want/desire to get paid for all the work I do. One does not exclude (preclude?) the other and there is no shame in valuing who I am and therefore what I do in all the ways—including monetary. That means I get to risk asking for help with the business part of this venture, and dare to be open to receiving in the support.
There is a pleasure I get from wallowing in self-loathing, self-doubt, and self-negation. It is not humility; it is pride in reverse.
I do not need to exceed expectations or succumb to pressure to be better by doing more. I get to rest. I get to relax. I get to enjoy what is now.
When some asks me what I want, especially when they ask me to specific, it means they want to know who I am. They are asking for information they need to make their next decision. So, I will answer the question directly and give them the opportunity to know me better; to love and respect the woman I am, not the woman I pretend to be.
There is more than one door out of a room. So, when I find myself in a room I do not want to be in, I can leave by whichever door I want.
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Meals Out: A few different places in Dallas but to be honest, I did not keep track of them in a log. And you know what? That kind of presence feels good—and I will not beat up on myself for being a “bad” content creator something or other.
Listening (voice): No podcasts…and no radio. Been spending time with all the peeps around me and then letting my mind wander into a mediation as it processes so yeah, not much extra input needed right now.
Listening (song most likely on repeat): Just To See You Smile by Tim McGraw. (link to Apple Music, embed to Spotify) This song was given to me by my love. It made me smile as I drove from through the big sky country to Amarillo. It is now also on the Discoball Tour playlist. Every song I listen to while I drive around will be added to this playlist (even the ones I just check out or sample out of curiosity). You are invited to follow along on Spotify.
Watching: Nothing. By the time I call it a night, I am too tired. It is quite heavenly to be honest.
Most Hours Logged Doing: Helping my mentor with IT things in her house. Visiting with new friends, going for brunch and dinner. Recording with three different women in two days. Driving about 5 hours on Sunday from Dallas, TX by way of Justin, TX to Amarillo, TX.
Monday Morning Meditation: 9.8.25
(Forgot to add this in my original post…road brain)
Access your inner being and connect with what you know to be true—for you.
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What an incredible “Camino” you are in my friend. Thank you for taking us all along🩵